The big questions seem to be:
- "What makes a good leader (from a horse's perspective) and why is it important to the horse?"
- "What would good leadership from a human look like?" (My guess is Pat Parelli - not to suck up too much..)
- "What constitutes respect?" (Both from and for the horse.)
Tenley currently has the Gallop to Freedom book in her possession and promises to research their take on the relationship of physical force to leadership. However, as she pointed out to me, they are creating art from the horse's performances and may not be set out to achieve a particular goal with their stallions. But then, doesn't that come back to the old debate about putting goals before principles/principles before goals? And whose goals are they anyway?
So here are my notes from before and I'll try to make heads or tails I've written:
Dominance = insistence on the outcome of another's decision
Human dominance without 2-way communication tends to trigger horses to go right-brain.
Dominance with 2-way communication = left-brain, decision making response ("do I comply or not?" "What's in it for me?")
2 way communication + motivation/incentive
From a horse's perspective, humans are either dominant or subordinant - as herd animals, they need to know where they stand. This prevents choas when the herd is confronted with a crises. *They work it out LB for use in RB situations.* This knowledge = Security in the herd hierarchy.
Security (from a horse's perspective) = 2-way communication + incentive + dominance + dependability. (Communication + dominance = its own incentive: Safety "relax, someone else is making the decisions")
Leadership = Energy (phases/follow-thru) + Intention (communication, focus) = trust/dependability. The more effective the leadership, the less testing of it.
Leader = communication + incentive (safety, rewards, etc.) + dominance + dependability (dominance + dependability = Phases)
Characteristics of a Leader: communicator (listening + conveying meaning), motivator, enforcer (firm but fair), emotionally fit (trustworthy/predictable/dependable/win-win), good judgment
What makes a horse want to follow human leadership?
- good ideas with positive outcomes (from the horse's perspective)
- getting through RB crises together (camaraderie, track record) - set it up for success!
Leadership IS "You do what I say and you will feel better" (no dissonance)
"You do" = dominance
"what I say" = communication
"and you will feel better" = incentive
successful outcomes yield trust/dependability
You must demonstrate to a LB horse that, above all, you always have his best interests at heart. Trust is easy to lose, but hard to gain!!
Responsibilities of a Leader (through a horse's eyes):
- have a plan
- act predictably and logically - no punishment or tantrums
- mean what you say (suggest, ask, tell, promise)
- keep my needs always in mind
- answer my questions
- show me how
Premeditated compliance. This is based on the LB working out of Leadership through 2-way communication + incentives that the horse values + clear, progressive phases.
Oh. Hmm. Premeditated compliance.
Can one be both a "partner" and a "leader"? Can these roles be flexible? (Think marriage.) In reality, a horse is sometimes the leader in a relationship. This isn't always bad - consider the wise old school horse and the little child or the emotional lady and her stoic horse..
What do these terms mean to a horse? (Give detailed concrete examples.)
What is meant by "love" "language" and "leadership"?
Love - unconditional, positive regard ?, physical affection?
Language - a method of 2-way communication
Leadership - see above?!